The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. However, for those going through a divorce, it can feel like an emotional minefield. The traditions you once cherished may now seem bittersweet, and navigating family gatherings can be overwhelming. While it’s natural to feel a range of emotions, there are ways to find balance and even moments of peace during this challenging time.

Here are some practical tips to help you navigate the holidays while going through a divorce:

1. Adjust Your Expectations

It’s okay if this holiday season looks different than past ones. Acknowledge that things have changed and give yourself permission to create new traditions. Or maybe not even new “traditions,” but just do something different this year. Take a trip to New York and spend the day walking through Central Park, for instance. Sometimes getting away from the reminders of holidays-past can be very freeing. Focus on what feels manageable rather than striving for perfection.

2. Prioritize Self-Care

The holidays can be stressful even under normal circumstances, so make self-care a priority. Whether it’s a walk outside, practicing deep breathing throughout the day, or spending time with supportive friends, find activities that help you recharge.

3. Plan Ahead for Parenting Arrangements

If you have children, clear communication with your former spouse about holiday schedules is essential. Create a plan that works for everyone involved, and try to keep the focus on what’s best for the kids. If this is your first holiday season apart, consider how to evenly share time while minimizing disruptions for the children. Keep their well-being and safety at the forefront of all decisions. Once the plan is made, clearly communicate it to your children so they know exactly what to expect around the holidays and aren’t left constantly wondering and worried.

4. Lean on Your Support System

Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist who can provide a listening ear and emotional support. You don’t have to go through this alone, and sharing your feelings can help alleviate some of the stress.

5. Establish New Behaviors

Creating new behaviors can bring a sense of renewal. Whether it’s volunteering, traveling, or hosting a small gathering, finding new ways to celebrate can help you move forward while honoring the past.

6. Practice Gratitude

While it might feel difficult, focusing on the positives in your life can be grounding. Make a list of things you’re thankful for, no matter how small. At the end of every day, think of three good things that happened during the day. Gratitude doesn’t erase pain, but it can provide a moment of clarity and peace.

7. Set Boundaries

The holidays often come with expectations from others. Be clear about what you can and cannot do this year. It’s okay to decline invitations or modify plans if they feel too overwhelming. You might face pressure from relatives who enjoy manipulating through guilt, but stay strong and grounded in know your well-being is of utmost importance.

8. Be Gentle with Yourself

Divorce is a major life transition, and it’s normal to feel a mix of emotions. Allow yourself to grieve, celebrate, or simply rest as needed. Remember that healing takes time, and it’s okay to take things day by day.

Finding Hope Amid Change

While the holidays during a divorce may not feel the same as before, they can still hold moments of connection and joy. By adjusting your expectations, leaning on your support system, and developing new behaviors, you can navigate this season with resilience and hope. Remember, you are not alone, and brighter days lie ahead.

Support at Your Fingertips

If the holidays feel overwhelming, consider using tools like Calmpak to help manage stress and build resilience. With experiences designed to promote relaxation, improve sleep, and provide quick mental breaks, Calmpak can be a valuable companion during difficult times and lead you towards better moments.